Over the years, spanning into decades; animated movies, dramas (movies) and society has painted the picture of Mr and Mrs right into our psyche (mind). Every girl and boys dreams of Mr Right and Mrs right who will fit into their world like a square peg in a square hole.
After discussing with a lot of females and males, I realise, that the Mr Right and Mrs right search is not necessarily the search for someone that will fit into the searcher's life or world, but most times , it's the search for some one that can compliment.
The qualities that defines a Mr Right differs from person to person after all, one lady's meat is another lady's allergy. The criteria for defining a Mr Right or Mrs right is psychologically due to the upbringing (home) and the environment (his or her community).
I rephrase: "one girl's tout is another girls Prince Charming"
The qualities that defines a Mr Right differs from person to person after all, one lady's meat is another lady's allergy. The criteria for defining a Mr Right or Mrs right is psychologically due to the upbringing (home) and the environment (his or her community).
I rephrase: "one girl's tout is another girls Prince Charming"
So we can now group people's perspective of Mr and Mrs right into two:
- A woman or a man that has same dispositions, character, upbringing, education, religion, social standard etc as you. Or
- Someone who possess what the searcher is in need of or lacks. For example: height, wealth, complexion, education, fame etc.
I have come across very fare complexioned girls who clearly made their dislike for dark complexion men known. They can never see them selves happy with someone who is opposite what they are. In education wealth and skin colour.
Who is Mr and Mrs right?:
He is someone that makes you feel fulfilled and happy. Someone you can journey the ends of the earth for and he will also do likewise. Some one who is prepared to genuinely live with you and be with you. But a lot of people later get disappointed even after their Mr or Mrs right is delivered in shining packages.
People later discovers that the illusion of Mr and Mrs right being hundred percent perfect is but a mirage. Why? Because they just discovered that their Mr and Mrs right has some baggage, weakness and shortcomings too bad to condole.
Is it actually too big to condole? The answer is no, but our disappointment and shocked makes us quit on the right man instead of helping them to grow a new and better stem.
Is it actually too big to condole? The answer is no, but our disappointment and shocked makes us quit on the right man instead of helping them to grow a new and better stem.
A soon to be married man said to me: "Sir two heads are better than one, they have double reward"
Ecclesiastes 4:9 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.
This is true if it is actually two head and not half-half head. A pair of one has to come together to form two not halves because it is two pairs of half (four halves) that gives two. That scripture simply means two whole spouse are better together that one (half head plus half head).
With my little experience and walk with people, I have come to realise that most people are fully qualified as one or whole when it comes to physical body structure. but in the issue of life and matters of positive ramification growth, they are either an half, quarter, or a big minus.
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Your happy ever after is as a result of how well you have worked on your self to be that woman worthy of a man (Mr right), who has also worked on himself. Knowing that a boat is only kept afloat by those who have learnt to sail.
With my little experience and walk with people, I have come to realise that most people are fully qualified as one or whole when it comes to physical body structure. but in the issue of life and matters of positive ramification growth, they are either an half, quarter, or a big minus.
Note
Your happy ever after is as a result of how well you have worked on your self to be that woman worthy of a man (Mr right), who has also worked on himself. Knowing that a boat is only kept afloat by those who have learnt to sail.
This is the reason for a lot of short term relationship. Someone you know, maybe a family member. Calls you up and say: have found the one (joyfully screening), he is a real gentleman, he took me on a tour, cares about my feelings and is always looking to pacify them. He is God fearing and respects the women, He always has a sexy way with words, he is a charmer!
Two months into their marriage or relationship, he or she calls back saying: "can I stay at your place for some time until I sort things out? you are like "what happen, what about your husband?" "it was all a lie. I made a mistake OK." Then she will complain about all weakness that are now appearing but not appealing. How funny, you saw his strength and you married him, saw his weaken and you took to your heels.
Singles think singlehood is a time to goof around, party, get drunk and jump from one bed to another (sex). They make little or no positive impart on their mind. Am not talking about the impart of a university degree because statistics has it that the educated are also going through the trauma of divorce.
Singles think singlehood is a time to goof around, party, get drunk and jump from one bed to another (sex). They make little or no positive impart on their mind. Am not talking about the impart of a university degree because statistics has it that the educated are also going through the trauma of divorce.
This is because we have this demented mind set that Mr and Mrs right is not human rather he or she is an angel. We end up placing them on that pedestal, and later when their humanity starts to bleed through, we quit as though we are exceptional.
We also have this mentality that relationship with a man or woman will make thing better for us. that is, will fix what we are going through. We look at people with spouses and we conclude that spousal is the root of his or her happiness. Then we jump on the next train to happy never after.
We forget, that what ever comfort we think we saw in the couple we looked at, is all work upon work. Every couple no matter how shipshape their relationship is, also has times that storms rocks their boat. Because they have done their due diligence in their singlehood, they find a middle ground where both of their baggage becomes easy to condole and your partner actually becomes an angel.
Just maybe his money was what made you qualify him as Mr Right and at the end of the day, you realised he is as cold as a corpse or he is very physically abusive. No matter how wealthy, caring a fool is, a fool is a fool. Folly is psychological.
What is the real or appropriate definition of Mr and Mrs right?
He or she is someone you can live with, someone you can condole his or her excesses. This is what makes them-right for you verse versa.
*before that person comes, work on your self so as not to lose them with your unpruned dispositions.*
Please follow my next blog as I look at the dogma: "he that findeth a wife finds a good thing"
By I. Macpherson
*before that person comes, work on your self so as not to lose them with your unpruned dispositions.*
Please follow my next blog as I look at the dogma: "he that findeth a wife finds a good thing"
By I. Macpherson
